[[Notes]] - Topics: [[Perspective]], [[Self-understanding]] - People: Learn With Liz - Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1h-I7fm1lQw --- ## Summary - [[You cannot control what others do, only how you respond to them]]. - [[There's never any need to get worked up about things you cannot control]]. - [[You need self control and an out of control world]]. - Take a deep breath, get ready to solve the many small problems ahead of you. - [[Side effects may not be controllable, but they may be anticipated]]. - [[Don't react. Respond.]] ## Notes ### Control - "Having control means that you have the power to change something". - [[You cannot control what others do, only how you respond to them]]. - [[You have the power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength.]] - [[There's never any need to get worked up about things you cannot control]]. - [[Strengthened the will of self. Don't bend the will of others.]] - "Regulating your emotions means how you **choose** to **react** to things". - "Knowing that something is out of our control helps us focus on the things that are in our control." - We have control over our breath, body, thoughts and words. ### Circle of control - We are at the center of the circle of control. We have control over what appears in the innermost circle - our minds, bodies, emotion and spirit. - Beyond that inner circle you have little to no control. You have, at best, influence. - [[You need self control and an out of control world]]. - [[I cannot control the wind but I can direct the sail]]. - I can take my **deep breath** and get ready to **solve my small problems**. - You cannot control how others may react. However, you may anticipate it. Therefore, you should consider the potential effects of others before you act. - [[Side effects may not be controllable, but they may be anticipated]]. - The desire to control others comes from our inability to control ourselves. - We assign blame onto others for our own dissatisfactions, which suggests that others are the problem. Problems to be controlled. Problems to be managed. - Choose to focus on the things we do have control over. ## Original ![[The circle of control-1.jpg]] ![[The circle of control-2.jpg]]