[[Notes]] - Topics: [[Perspective]], [[Self-understanding]], [[Kindness]] - People: [[Aileen Xu]] - Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rU8APAwp6io --- ## Summary - [[Accept yourself as you are right now]]. - [[Allow yourself to feel]]. Allow yourself to heal. - Surrender your expectations to your feelings. Let go. - [[Instead of focusing on what is going wrong, focus on what is still going right]]. - [[Gratitude is not a competition; it is honest acknowledgement and celebration]]. - [[Allow yourself to just exist]]. - "When you are unwell, all you have to do is to do nothing". - [[Take the little big steps you need to move forward]]. - Be kind and gentle to yourself. ## Notes ### Low state - "When you are in this low state, the best thing to do is the opposite of being productive. You have to [[Slow down, be gentle to yourself, and allow yourself to heal]]" - "Just allow yourself to be." - Burnout may arise from not listening to yourself until it is too late. - Recovering is a healing process. To recover successfully, you must first understand yourself. Listen to yourself to learn what you need and truly allow yourself to receive it. - Having high expectations of self is potentially harmful in low state. They become expectations that cannot be met, resulting in further harm. - In times of low state, declare expectation bankruptcy. ### Move forward, gently - Start moving forward with incremental gentle and tiny steps. Allow yourself to feel forgiveness. [[Allow yourself to feel]]. - [[Move forward with tiny, gentle, intentional and forgiving steps]]. - We lose our sense of control when our expectations do not align with the outcomes of the world. - "Our body and energy are telling us to surrender to our feminine. To go inward, slow down, heal, and love ourselves". ### Surrender - Surrender. Release your feelings of control. Release your expectations. - [[Accept yourself as you are right now]]. - [[The moment of surrender sits at the apex of letting go]]. It is the simplest, but also the most difficult thing to do. - Surrender yourself to [[The quiet]]. - "There's no action needed. Just inaction." ### Let yourself rest. - Remove pressure to be or do. - [[Just exist]]. - "When you're unwell, all you have to do is do nothing". Allow yourself to [[Balance]] and heal. ### Let yourself love. - "Practice unconditional love". - Be kind and gentle to yourself. - "Love is accepting". ### Shift your focus - You may have been focusing on the wrong or difficult things. - [[Focus on what is easy to get through what is hard]]. - Focus on breathing. We may get so overwhelmed that we forget how to do the most natural and simplest thing. To breathe. - "[[Instead of focusing on what is going wrong, focus on what is still going right]]." - Remind yourself that the world that you are a part of the collection of little big worlds that make up your communities and what matters most to you. ### Life happens in cycles. - [[Change is the only constant]]. - Without highs there will not be lows. "[[It's the depth and variety that allow you to feel the difference]]." - It is because you know dark that you can appreciate light. - [[The brightest light casts the strongest shadows]]. ### Take tiny steps - [[Take the little big steps you need to move forward]]. One day you will be running without even realizing it. - Acknowledge and celebrate your small actions. - [[What are the little big things you can do today to make things better for you and for someone else?]] - "[[A small effort is still an effort]]". - "Start small and give yourself grace". ### Find gratitude - Focus on gratitude. Start with the smallest things. - Find gratitude without judgment. - [[Gratitude is not a competition; it is honest acknowledgement and celebration]]. - It's okay to not be okay right now. - Life moves forward regardless of how hard you are on yourself. ## Original ![[What to do if you feel like doing nothing-1.jpg]] ![[What to do if you feel like doing nothing-2.jpg]] ![[What to do if you feel like doing nothing-3.jpg]] ![[What to do if you feel like doing nothing-4.jpg]]