[[Notes]]
- Topics: [[Self-understanding]]
- People: [[Arthur Brooks]]
- Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L5lsYI0Q8zw
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## Summary
- [[You are not your work]].
- [[You are defined by what you value and how your actions express those values]].
- [[People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.]]
- [[Always be yourself]]
- [[Please think about your legacy because you are writing it every day]].
## Notes
### Identity
- Your perception of your identity is what you say in response to "who are you?".
- [[You are not your work]].
- [[You are not your art]].
- [[You are not your idea, and if you identify too closely with your ideas, you will take offence when they are challenged|You are not your idea]].
- [[You are not your attainment]].
- [[You are defined by what you value and how your actions express those values]].
- You are defined by how others remember you — or if they do at all.
- [[You are defined by the difference you've made in the lives of others]]
- [[People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.]]
- [[Please think about your legacy because you are writing it every day]].
### Fear of (identity) death
> "A fear of an attack on your identity... That's actually a death fear".
- A lot of people who are really good at what they do are desperately afraid of failing at work.
- Consider, acknowledge, and accept the stages of life yet to come. Recognize (and perhaps even celebrate) that all of those things are just part of life itself.
- [[To learn to die is to be liberated from it]].
- [[Expose yourself to the truth of your own mortality so that you can transcend it to be fully alive right now]].
- [[Feel the fear and do it anyway!]]
- [[When you feel you’re losing your edge, help others sharpen theirs.]]
- Move on in your mind. Move on in your heart. Move on in your life.
- Discover and embrace peace with the reality of things; with yourself.
> [[You have to engineer new good times under different circumstances]]
## See also
- [[Always be yourself]]