Melanie Robbins is an American lawyer, television host, author, and motivational speaker. Robbins is known for covering the George Zimmerman trial for CNN; her TEDx talk, How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over; and her books, The 5 Second Rule and The High 5 Habit. She also has multiple podcast series hosted on Audible. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mel_Robbins ## Notes - [[How to have difficult conversations]] - [[How to know if you're making the right decision]] - [[How to outsmart your self-doubt]] - [[Why showing appreciation is your superpower]] - [[Why the 5-second rule doesn't work]] ## Quotes - [[Change isn't going to be scary. Change is going to be what's happening.]] - [[Change is scary. That's why most people never change.]] - [[Does the decision expand you, expand your future, or expand the possibilities of your life? If the answer is yes, then the decision is yes - no matter how terrifying it is.]] - [[Feeling like you're not ready... Doubting yourself. All that, that's normal sh__ that we all do]] - [[Feeling nervous is normal. Letting it stop you is a choice.]] - [[Focus on taking action, even though you doubt yourself]] - [[Never go into a difficult conversations without an outcome defined]] - [[The real reason why it's easy to get stuck]] - [[The second you validate somebody, they immediately stop defending themselves]] - [[The single best thing you can do for yourself is to pull out a blank sheet of paper and go, where is there friction in my life]] - [[Untangle your emotions from the subject matter]] - [[When you ride the roller coaster of emotions, the thing that will stabilize your thoughts is the outcome that you're causing]] - [[You can't overcome the feelings that are rising up, but you can take action despite them]] - [[You're having a conversations because this isn't working, and you want to end it powerfully]]